Maybe I’ll Just Be an Aunt
The decision handed down by the Supreme Court yesterday, upholding the federal ban on the so-called partial-birth abortion, utterly convinces me that people will continue to be screwed over by the conservative SCOTUS unless they’re rich, white and male. And even the rich part isn’t so important in my humble opinion. It also whispers to me that perhaps my increasing doubts about having children are well-founded—after all, if something happens during the pregnancy and I could die, fuck me, right? The sanctity of life and what not—the purpose is to prevent an abortion, not to save my life. I’m just a human incubator, after all.
However, I’m damned if I do, damned if I don’t—if my partner and I decide not to have kids, rest assured I’ll never stop hearing about when I’m going to have a baby. Until I know that my health is in the hands of my chosen doctor and not legislators, I don’t think I should have any, I’ll say.
Many of the feminist websites have posted about and discussed this issue better than I can: check out Shakesville, Pandagon, Feministing, Bitch, Ph.D. and Feministe for more. Please be sure to click on the main pages at each site and explore—all are thought-provoking pages.
A terrifying thought: I may one day decide to get pregnant, have a horrible complication that will kill the fetus, and then suddenly die on my husband because I’m not allowed to save at least one life . . .
To quote Paul Simon, “Whew, slow.”
More later, as I felt an obligation to provide informative, intelligent links on this matter. I saved my posting for today because my writing was out of control yesterday.
Updated to add: Another of my usual reads is by Cecily over at and I wasted all that birth control. As you can tell, I don’t blogroll anything except for races at the moment, but it’s one of my stops throughout the day. Her story is heartwrenching and she was one of the first bloggers I thought about when I saw the decision. All I can say is that she knows.
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that was one of the reasons i got spayed – to make sure that the decision to (not) have kids stayed in my hands.
i still care about the issue as it pertains to other women, but i’m thrilled and relieved that nothing the courts or the legislature do with regard to abortion rights will have any kind of impact on me.