Comments on: Move On, Show’s Over, Nothing to See Here http://www.sonnet87.com/2009/10/29/move-on-shows-over-nothing-to-see-here/ Jumping into vast oceans of nothingness since 2004 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 18:51:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: IP http://www.sonnet87.com/2009/10/29/move-on-shows-over-nothing-to-see-here/comment-page-1/#comment-2617 IP Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:45:12 +0000 http://www.sonnet87.com/?p=1883#comment-2617 Some people like the sexual tension of those ambivalent relationships, or the attention that flows when one person is attracted to another even in the context of a "friendship". It makes sense that these things (friendship and dating) should run together, but often they don't, and that's the trap many people (especially less experienced college kids and young 20-somethings) can fall into again and again. It's even worse when everyone's always hanging out as a group and they can't be cleanly separated. But I'm with you. I always used to think "gosh, if I could just get past this initial BS stage [find out if she's interested, or the best-behavior first date, first awkward kiss, whatever], everything would be fine." Some people like the sexual tension of those ambivalent relationships, or the attention that flows when one person is attracted to another even in the context of a “friendship”. It makes sense that these things (friendship and dating) should run together, but often they don’t, and that’s the trap many people (especially less experienced college kids and young 20-somethings) can fall into again and again. It’s even worse when everyone’s always hanging out as a group and they can’t be cleanly separated.

But I’m with you. I always used to think “gosh, if I could just get past this initial BS stage [find out if she's interested, or the best-behavior first date, first awkward kiss, whatever], everything would be fine.”

]]> By: WordNerd http://www.sonnet87.com/2009/10/29/move-on-shows-over-nothing-to-see-here/comment-page-1/#comment-2616 WordNerd Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:24:27 +0000 http://www.sonnet87.com/?p=1883#comment-2616 And it's really the bullshit that drags dating down, isn't it? The coyness, the advance and flirty retreat, then the casual bombshell of a significant other lurking in the background, then the mixed signals from both sides, etc. It's exhausting. Being blunt is hard, having someone take a blunt approach to you can be jarring, but it does lead to better understanding and less bullshit. And it’s really the bullshit that drags dating down, isn’t it? The coyness, the advance and flirty retreat, then the casual bombshell of a significant other lurking in the background, then the mixed signals from both sides, etc. It’s exhausting.

Being blunt is hard, having someone take a blunt approach to you can be jarring, but it does lead to better understanding and less bullshit.

]]> By: IP http://www.sonnet87.com/2009/10/29/move-on-shows-over-nothing-to-see-here/comment-page-1/#comment-2615 IP Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:20:32 +0000 http://www.sonnet87.com/?p=1883#comment-2615 Good advice for people of both sexes who find themselves in "friendships" but want more. Some people compartmentalize these things, some don't, most do sometimes and can't really explain why. The key turning point in my dating life was when I decided to avoid all such situations by moving to meeting people to date online. Much more efficient, and much less bullshit. It led to my getting married, too. Good advice for people of both sexes who find themselves in “friendships” but want more. Some people compartmentalize these things, some don’t, most do sometimes and can’t really explain why.

The key turning point in my dating life was when I decided to avoid all such situations by moving to meeting people to date online. Much more efficient, and much less bullshit.

It led to my getting married, too.

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